Feminism’s accomplishments

  • Expanded the boundaries of what women could want, such as high-powered careers, children, sexual freedom, political power — or all four at once.
  • The public is now aware of research showing that the staggeringly high percentage of women murder victims have been murdered by husbands, boyfriend, relatives, or acquaintances. Nearly half of these women are killed when they tried to leave the man.
  • Awareness that women are endangered by other women. Worldwide, “token torturers” [Mary Daly’s phrase] genitally mutilate girl children, banish their incestuously abused daughters — and not the abusive men who perpetrate it.
  • Awareness that women shame each other into obedience [e.g. women barter commitment for security so sexual ‘promiscuity’ cheapens her value – Alma]
  • Male family violence, child abuse, and child sex abuse are being recognized as crimes by police, courts and religions.

Source: Phyllis Chesler

Blog names

Flying Shortbread – for those who love shortbread, and know that it is not as passive as it looks

Dillycious – for those silly with elation

Rabbittaile – for the lucky pompers

School uniforms

The debate here, in South Africa, is about a girl who refused to remove a nose-ring on the grounds that it was an expression of her religion. In fact, in that religion a belly-ring is and expression of religion and a nose-ring is an expression of culture. Her parents have taken the battle through Equality Court and are now at the Supreme Court.

A 702 caller phoned in and said that the missionaries introduced their Western uniforms during colonial times when apartheid first started and now Blacks view uniforms as a symbol of domination. A valid point. I wouldn’t want to have a vacuum cleaner sewn into my hip or a stove as a breast implant.

I think uniforms are a good thing, though. Especially at school. As a student you get to know everyone else as equals, and slowly get to know them and gradually find out all the things that divide you. As time passes the feeling you have for that person is great enough for you to consider tolerance of their religion, sexuality, nationalism or whatever as the various issues come up. Take America, they have no uniforms and have columbinesque shootings at school, a problem with bullying and classism, en ek weet nie wat alles nie.

Conversely, I tend to have a strong “Fuck off” reaction to people that I meet for the first time who assume that because I am white I am racist and that I will collude with their opinions. I tend to chuck those people and therefore never have a chance to influence their opinions from the in-side.

Discard girl babies

The Indian government is planning to set up a network of cradles around the country where parents can leave unwanted baby girls. India banned gender selection and selective abortion in 1994) …. Last November a Japanese hospital announced plans to set up a “baby hatch” allowing mothers to anonymously drop off their newborns so they could be put up for adoption…. BBC

The supreme court has already made a law which forbids any sex determination while pregnant…. The researchers analysed autopsy reports of babies in three socially deprived parts of Delhi over a five-year period and discovered that the overall death rate for girls was almost one-third higher than that for oys. This was particularly the case for sudden, unexplained deaths – three out of four cases were girls. As a result of gender prejudices, in some states the male-female ratio is now so skewed that men are running out of potential brides. Many are resorting to “buying” girls from poor communities outside their region to bear their children. BBC

“People say, you have two girl children, you have done some sins in your past life,” said office manager Surinder Saini. “With a boy child, people say your generation will propagate, your older age will be safer. This is the concept of our society.” BBC

In China, footbinding was still continuing 100 years after a law had been billed against it. Japan and India had better hurry the hell up. Not that laws solve everything, but they do bring the issues into the public domain and start a process of action. Sloth is a way that maintains the status quo – and YOU are the sloth.

Flashback Friday

Cinnamon Gurl sparked this off. Thanks. Each week the Flashback Friday: Feminist Edition will feature a story that has something to do with being or becoming a woman or feminist. This series will continue until I run out of stories. I love having guest bloggers. If you have a story you want to tell and you want to be a guest blogger here, please email me; or feel free to link to your own story in the comments.

Fake Breasts

Anna Nicole Smith just died and the documentary about her devoted several minutes to telling us all about the infections she had after the plastic surgery, and the time she had to have her one silicone sack out for a while. She stayed at home so no one could see she was lop-sided.

The woman on Doctor 90210 that pitched to have her anus peroxided, one of many procedures she had had done. The woman who phoned into 702 crying because she was about to go for her eleventh operation to fix a botched boob job. Who doesn’t see any hope for herself to ever look normal.

Put concisely, thankfully by my girlfriend: “I would feel like I was touching props.” Who said that boys don’t play with dolls, Barbies gone bananas. Soon they will be able to buy a woman on eBay, ‘comes with five outfits and a vacuum cleaner’.

Het List

10 things you didn’t know about women

1. If we run into your ex-girlfriend in public, the first thing you should do is put your arm around us. And if we have to introduce ourselves, you are in big trouble.

2. When you tell us about a business lunch you had with a woman, it’s a good idea to tell us that she’s fat, ugly, old, or a lesbian. Preferably all of them.

3. PMS is real. It’s chemical, and it sucks. If someone told you that every thirty days you were going to get jacked repeatedly in the nuts, you’d be pissy around day twenty-six, too.

4. When we say, “I don’t feel connected,” the only appropriate response is, “I feel it, too. Let’s go out for a nice dinner and reconnect.” Try it. You will get laid.

5. If you can locate the following items in our home—tape, casserole dish, Christmas ornaments—you will get laid.

6. If you act excited about the bath mat we bought at Target, you will get laid.

7. We really want to have kids. That is, until you want to have kids. Then: “Hey, slow down. What about my career? It’s my body. I’m not just a depository for your sperm, you know. Fuck off. Wait, come back. I’m sorry about that. It’s sweet you want to have kids. Let’s talk about it in a year.”

8. You know what’s really gay? Football. Instead of watching it, just have sex with another dude once a year. Get it all out of your system at once.

9. We can make a “celebrity safe list” if you want. But I am way more likely to get Patrick Dempsey to fuck me in a bathroom than you are to get Lindsay Lohan to suck you off in your car.

10. Okay, wait. Maybe not Lindsay Lohan. But you know what I mean.

Would you believe? Esquire, Jenna Fischer stars in NBC’s The Office and in the upcoming figure-skating comedy Blades of Glory.

Sin Big!

Mary Daly,
who writes in her book Lust:
Sin Big!

What she means is this:
In any social system,
those in power have power over many things.
Including language and religion.
And so,
to keep their power,
they label as sins those things which might lead to change.
Sin is a way of enforcing the way things are.
Sin is a way of saying,
don’t rock the boat.

Matthew Johnson-Doyle, minister, activist, soon-to-be dad, religious liberal, puzzle-lover and Colorado Springs resident. Write me at minister AT hpcuu.org